• My Love/Hate Relationship With The Blogosphere
  • My Love/Hate Relationship With The Blogosphere

    I’ve been back in the “blogosphere” for a few months now after several years away and I thought it might be time to do a post to call out some of the great, and perhaps not so great things about the blogging world. I don’t mean for this to come across as just having a whinge but instead just a way to get some things off my chest that potentially some of you have experienced as well.

    So, what are some of the things I severely dislike about the blogosphere?

    The Follow/Unfollow Game

    Possibly the most annoying game to ever grace social media. I just don’t understand the point in playing it? Surely you follow someone because you like them & their content, not just in the hopes that you’ll get a follow back. It just seems like such a waste of time and it ruins someone’s reputation.

    I can guarantee that if I notice someone following and unfollowing me repeatedly, they will absolutely NOT be getting a follow back – instead they’ll be getting a block for being so bloody annoying.

    It’s All About Those Numbers

    It really shouldn’t be, but sometimes it is and it’s unavoidable. The number of times I’ve gone to apply to work with a brand and their requirements are somewhere along the lines of “Must have 10k+ followers on Instagram” etc. I mean, I kind of understand the reasoning behind it, like yeah you want your brand/product/whatever to be seen by a lot of people but that doesn’t necessarily mean than only “big” bloggers can promote it.

    Another thing in this category are those aforementioned “big” bloggers who don’t reply to “small” bloggers. Honestly it’s just plain rude and there’s no reason for it. I’m not asking to be best friends with you, I just want to know where your skirt is from.

    The Pressure & Comparing Ourselves to Each Other

    I think every blogger has put pressure on themselves at some point, whether it’s to get a post written in time, or to get photos taken or edited, or to even just be present on social media enough so that they still feel relevant. I’m really bad for it myself. I constantly put pressure on myself to get a post done because I’ll feel like a failure if a week goes by and I don’t post. Now I know that’s not the case at all and that forced content is the worst, but still.

    I’ll be the first to hold my hand up and admit that I’m so guilty of comparing myself to other bloggers and feeling inferior, and to be honest I think a lot of us are guilty of it. It’s so easy to look at one of my photos next to another bloggers’ and think “I wish my photos looked like that”. It can be hard, but I think we need to remind ourselves, and each other, that we’re all different and we all have our own blogs & Instagram pages for a reason – nobody wants to follow 50 bloggers that post identical pictures.

    Now that I’ve had a moan (soz) lets move onto more positive things about the blogosphere and why it can be such a nice place to be.

    Bloggers Are So Bloody Nice

    It’s just a fact. Bloggers are just such positive people and are so ready to compliment you on your latest Insta post or retweet your most recent blog post, and it’s because bloggers know to treat others how you wish to be treated. We know that a like or a comment can literally make another blogger’s day, and it literally takes two seconds to do, so why not? If you need that little confidence boost, or that little bit of motivation to know that you’re doing good – bloggers have got your back.

    The number of amazing people I’ve met through blogging alone is amazing and I never would’ve crossed paths with them if it wasn’t for my blog. I actually wrote a post about friendships (particularly blogging friendships) which you can find here.

    The Possibilities Are Endless

    By having our own blogs, we can write about literally anything we want. One day I might write about makeup, one day I might write about shoes, and the day after that I might write about a horrific true crime case that fascinates me because it’s MY blog. Our blogs are our own little corners of the internet and we’re so lucky to be able to do what we want with them.Another thing, our blogs can lead to so many opportunities! Whether it’s working with brands, starting our own businesses, turning it into a career etc; the possibilities are literally endless and it’s so exciting.

    It’s Made Me Dress Better

    I’m not even joking. After being part of the blogging community for a few months now, I’ve noticed my dress sense improving drastically and that I’ve become more adventurous with my clothing choices. I’ve started going for pieces that I normally would run a mile from and I’m loving it! The other day I bought my first ever jumpsuit and I feel FAB in it.

    I’m no longer just reaching for a slogan tee and skinny jeans. Well, I still love a good slogan tee (who doesn’t) but I’ve branched out into mom jeans recently and I’ve been loving life. I’ve also been adding accessories such as belts which is groundbreaking for someone like me who always forgets to accessorise. I don’t think I’m quite ready for those teeny tiny sunglasses and a wooden handbag yet, but maybe one day I’ll get there.

    I’d love to know your thoughts on the blogosphere. What do you hate about it, or what do you love about it? Let me know!

    Louise x

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    31 Comments

    1. July 25, 2018 / 7:21 pm

      What you wrote is so true and can relate. I especially like how nice everyone is! I often find myself stressed out when blogging, but when fellow bloggers comment (positively) I feel uplifted that I can keep on doing it.
      plaidandsugar.blogspot.ca

    2. venus aby
      July 25, 2018 / 7:21 pm

      I can relate so much to this post, especially the comparing myself to other bloggers part. It’s sometimes difficult for me to not look at another bloggers instagram and think “their feed is so much better than mine” but it’s true that no one wants to see the same instagram page over and over again. And I can’t even lie, the blogosphere has also helped me dress better in the sense that the clothes I wouldn’t even think about wearing, I’d wear because I’ve seen another blogger wear it and thought “hey, maybe I wont look bad in that too!”
      venus | https://venusaby.blogspot.com

      • louiseee
        August 4, 2018 / 8:06 pm

        I’m guilty for doing that as well, it’s so bad!

        Hahaha if I ever need outfit inspiration I just go onto Instagram now 😂

        Louise // https://lifewithlouise.com

    3. July 25, 2018 / 7:23 pm

      I can really relate to this post. I always feel like I have a bit of a love hate relationship with blogging and some days it’s great and other days I find it so frustrating.

    4. July 25, 2018 / 7:59 pm

      I relate to this so much following and unfollowing game is totally is out of thing.

    5. July 25, 2018 / 8:32 pm

      Totally agree with you. I look at my photos and compare it to others but then yeah..I don’t want to have the same photos as 100 other mid-twentysomethings. But hey ho. Love this post
      Katie

    6. July 26, 2018 / 3:44 am

      Great post and I share your thoughts and feelings.

      I don’t think the follow unfollow thing happens on blogs, does it? I find it’s crazy on Instagram… and I def agree that bloggers are so nice and supportive It such a. Great way to connect Witt amazing people 💗

      Stef | forkandveg.com

      • louiseee
        August 4, 2018 / 8:03 pm

        Nah I don’t think it’s as bad on blogs but it’s definitely a problem on Insta and Twitter ☹️

        Thanks for reading!

        Louise // https://lifewithlouise.com

    7. July 27, 2018 / 7:36 pm

      I completely relate to this. I’ve only been blogging since December and although I absolutely love it, at times I find it so stressful. The blogging community is amazing and so kind but, the struggle to maintain followers particularly on Instagram is a real challenge for me. Sometimes I wonder why I created my blog in the first place but, then I remember how much I enjoy writing and the freedom I feel to create a space totally my own.

      Kate x

      cakeandcoast.com

      • louiseee
        August 4, 2018 / 8:02 pm

        It literally is a love/hate relationships with so many ups and downs. Thanks so much for reading x

        Louise // https://lifewithlouise.com

    8. July 27, 2018 / 9:00 pm

      Yes to all of these points! The unfollow/follow game drives me to distraction! The community have been immensely supportive though and I am so grateful that I am not just sat here writing travel content for nobody to read! Thankyou for sharing and welcome back to the blogging world 🙂

      abbiejadewanders.co.uk

    9. July 29, 2018 / 7:17 pm

      I completely agree with everything you’ve written in this post! I love being a part of such a lovely community and I’ve met so many good friends through blogging but I agree that it’s so rude when ‘big bloggers’ think they’re superior to others and don’t reply to them just because they have less followers! I hate the follow/unfollow game and I’m finding it happens on Twitter quite a bit now as well as Instagram which is so annoying and I hate it when people link drop on comment threads and then don’t return them! Great post lovely!

      Jess // foundationsandfairytales.wordpress.com
      xx

    10. July 29, 2018 / 7:31 pm

      I can really relate to this post…. I get so frustrated with numbers and follow/unfollow, but on the other hand I’m addicted to social media and seeing your stats rise.

      Ashleigh x

    11. Soffy
      July 29, 2018 / 7:37 pm

      Thank you for being so honest and I completely agree with everything you’ve written. I’ve experienced the follow/unfollow game and it’s so annoying ! I follow bloggers whose content attract me not because I want them to follow me back so when someone does that to me it does make me sad.

      But like you mentioned there are positives and the one main positive for me since I began is that I’ve grown in confidence even IRL which I am surprised but know it’s due to blogging and coming across so many wonderful people.

      Soffy // themumaffairs.blogspot.com

      • louiseee
        August 4, 2018 / 8:00 pm

        Ahh thanks so much for reading! I’ve found that I’ve grown in confidence as well thanks to blogging, it’s mental 😂

        Louise // https://lifewithlouise.com

    12. July 29, 2018 / 7:59 pm

      I am very annoyed at the follow unfollow game. Although being obsessed with numbers is annoying, I get why they still matter. Too businesses, that was is important and they want to reach as many people so will work with people with high following. Frustrating but it is not the bloggers fault. Bloggers are super nice, i have made amazing friendship and I do too, dress way better!

    13. July 29, 2018 / 10:03 pm

      I agree with everything in this post and it’s so good to see people opening discussing these issues. I really enjoy talking to other bloggers and reading other posts, but I do find big bloggers a bit intimidating to approach because of the assumption that I won’t hear anything back because I don’t have enough followers. Thanks for sharing this post, lovely!

      Alice // sullialice.com

    14. August 1, 2018 / 11:25 am

      I so agree with you! I really hate how it’s all about the numbers, though we shouldn’t fixate on it it’s kind of true. But it’s better to enjoy what you’re doing because otherwise blogging can seem so tedious. xx

      amerzwithlove.com

      • louiseee
        August 4, 2018 / 7:58 pm

        Exactly! I think focusing on numbers makes you fall out of love with blogging ☹️

        Louise // https://lifewithlouise.com

    15. August 2, 2018 / 5:02 pm

      I couldn’t agree more with this post! The follow/unfollow thing is the absolute worst – I just don’t understand why people do it. Do they think we won’t notice? I do find it frustrating how focused I am on the numbers at times, but I feel like I’ve been learning to worry about it less recently which is nice.

      100% agree with you that bloggers are nice. I feel like bloggers can sometimes get a bad rep, but the ones that I’ve spoken to have been so kind!

    16. August 4, 2018 / 9:49 am

      Loved this! I find Instagram the worst for comparing and thinking ‘oh where I live hasn’t got anywhere nice for photos’. However, this has pushed me to go explore new places in the area I live in. You’re right not everyone wants to see 50 photos of different people in the same place!

      • louiseee
        August 4, 2018 / 7:55 pm

        I know, I do the same! I’m always dead jealous of bloggers who live in like London and have pretty backgrounds all the time. I think everywhere has those pretty areas, you just need to go searching for some of them!

        Louise // https://lifewithlouise.com

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