When I was growing up I remember all of my friends starting to go out to parties and drink. For some reason, this didn’t appeal to me. I figured that it would come with time and one day I’d be out partying in clubs until all hours, yet here I am at 23 years old and I’m still not like that. Don’t get me wrong, I like a drink every now and then and I’ll happily sit in a pub with friends for drinks and a laugh but the thought of going out to a club just fills me with dread.
Here’s the thing, I didn’t go to uni. I finished high school and went straight into my first job so I didn’t have those four or so years of socialising, partying, drinking etc. I think for some, uni is that perfect time to do all of these things and a lot of uni culture is going out partying. Personally, I chose not to go to uni – I just didn’t feel like it was for me, and that’s okay but that’s a whole other post that I’ll probably write in the future. But by choosing to not go to uni, I missed those few years of being a student and going out and being social and I’m honestly okay with that. Knowing me and how socially awkward I can be, I’d have probably hated uni and would have stayed in all the time by myself anyway!
I think a lot of it comes down to my anxiety. Even the thought of being in a club, surrounded by drunk people that I don’t know and loud music just fills me with anxiety. Crowded spaces + drunk people + loud noises = a no go. I’ve been in clubs before and hated every second of it. Clubs just aren’t my scene, like I said before I’ll sit in a pub for hours and love it but as soon as someone suggests going to a club, I’m out. I know for a fact that I’d be miserable while I’m there so why pay an entrance fee to a place where I’m going to be uncomfortable? Though Cam always says to me that I’ve never been to a club with him and he keeps my anxiety at bay so it could be a different story when I’m with him – I’ll report back to you!
If I had £1 for every time someone called me boring for not drinking, not going out, not partying – I’d be a millionaire. I absolutely hate that stigma. Just because I don’t drink that often doesn’t mean I’m boring or I can’t have fun – I don’t love the taste of alcohol so why would I waste money on it when I don’t want to drink it? Don’t get me wrong, I love a glass of Rosé every now and then and I’m partial to a cocktail but not all the time. I’ll happily sit and sip on a Diet Coke while everyone else is on the alcohol and not feel pressured to drink.
I’m really hoping this isn’t coming across as bashing anyone who goes out drinking every weekend, if you can do that then good on you! I sometimes wish I was able to do that, but I think it needs to be said that it’s okay to not go out every weekend, it’s okay to not want to drink alcohol, it’s okay to not be a fan of clubs. There can be so much peer pressure trying to force you to do these things but it’s okay to say no!
It took me a while to come to terms with the fact that I’m not a party girl and I probably never will be. I’d be happy spending my Saturday night with a glass of Rosé on the couch, watching an episode of Can’t Pay We’ll Take It Away and a bowl of pasta bake, though that might be because I’m a 70 year old in a 23 year old’s body 👵🏻
I’d be interested to hear your thoughts on this topic, let me know down below!